Sexual Abuse Causes Host of Long-Term Problems

An article we found here at White Balloon Support Head Quaters that describes the long-term problems associated with sexual abuse through cleverly linking it to a personal story. 

By Emerald Morrow

http://www.wlns.com/story/19835870/emerald 

 

(WLNS) — Children who are sexually abused can face a variety of long-term problems including agression, depression, anxiety, withdrawal, and even Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Experts say that it’s not uncommon for those abused to come forward later in life, citing fear as a factor.

Misty Botke, 44, of Eaton Rapids is facing seven felony charges of criminal sexual conduct. Officials say she was arrested at her home on Monday. Botke worked as a house parent at the VFW National Home in Ingham County, and her two alleged victims were as young as 12 and no older than 18 at the time of the assault.

“Coming into a home like that and then being abused by a caregiver really does take away their level of trust of authority,” said Marriage and Family Therapist Michael Whitehead.

Whitehead says the power imbalance between adults and children may be why victims come forward later as adults.

“Having their authority figures taken away from them, their parents for whatever reason, and then having an authority figure coming in to abuse them. They feel like there’s no authority in the world that’s going to really listen to them or help them,” said Whitehead.

He adds that those who’ve been sexually abused can later have trouble in relationships or marriage desiring sex and intimacy, especially if they don’t get the proper therapy. One reason why he says parents must take abuse accusations seriously.

“Look into those claims,: he said. “Really try and find out the truth, and trust the child.”

 

 

 

 

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This blog is so inspiring, its openness of issues are amazing. I agree – post-traumatic stress is a very serious matter. Those that have it and are enduring it need support. Read up on it so you have the KNOWLEDGE to recognise if someone you love needs help. #helpushelpthedefenceless

Stoning Demons

Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) is a psychological injury that results from protracted exposure to prolonged social and/or interpersonal trauma with lack or loss of control, disempowerment, and in the context of either captivity or entrapment, i.e. the lack of a viable escape route for the victim. C-PTSD is distinct from, but similar to, posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

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There are many forms of child sexual abuse, and I think this blog post intelligently illustrates the different forms very well. Not everyone knows what is technically considered to be “Child Sexual Abuse”, but even the taking off of clothing with a sexual intention is abuse. Children should never be exposed to such a violation.

Jesus. God Loves Bummyla.

What Is Child Sexual Abuse? Lola’s Story

Children Series Part 1 [8+]

 

Lola is usually taken to school by their driver. Sometimes on her way to school, the driver would touch her breast. On other days, the driver tells Lola to touch his private body part. She was scared because the driver threatened to kill her if she tells anyone. Lola couldn’t tell her parents because she didn’t want to die. When Lola read a book about child sexual abuse, then she knew what the driver was doing to her was wrong. She told her father and the driver was arrested by the police.

 

 

 

 

Child sexual abuse occurs when someone older than the child – such as an adult, an older child or a teenager touches your genitals, breast, buttocks or any other private part of the body. This touch can make you feel…

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It is ridiculous that ‘conversion therapy’ (a practice that attempts to ‘cure’ homosexuality) ever existed. California just became the first state to ban such a therapy on minors. Read Mr Klein’s opinion on such a topic – do you agree?

I love reading about the core values that humanity shares. We are all human beings – we should grow together for a peaceful world. We can learn something new everyday and should always strive to be better.

The Intimacy Forum

7 Core Values that All Dumanity Shares
1) Foundation – UNKNOWN   Healthy/unhealthy primal fear alchemy happens here.  It puts you on alert to what needs to be paid attention to.
We all have a core value in the unknown. It is what gives us the feeling of being alive, keeps boredom at bay and encourages us to be in the adventure of life.
When in an unhealthy state of expression: we become locked down in trauma locks of Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Disassociation.
In the land of uncertainty, we build our personal code of arms – labyrinths and moats to keep us safe from others. Knowing our own labyrinth and that of the person we want to connect with is essential for connection to take place at all.  To maintain passion and adventure in life with your fellow human beings, the mystery/uncertainty must be honored with one another.

2)…

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Pavini is such a brave individual! Speaking out and breaking the silence on child sexual abuse is difficult – it is through his strength that he leads a great example to those who need some help to speak out about their experiences. Check out his blog, and read his story.

Emancipating Sexuality

Breaking Silence

From an email I wrote to one of my parents today: “I have made a commitment to myself to acknowledge and come to acceptance of the story of my body and my sexuality.”

I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. 

For many years, I had experiences in sexual and intimate connections that baffled me.  My body would react in ways I did not understand.  Weird triggers suddenly made me pull away, deep inside.  I had many bodily sensations that seemed out of context to the situation.  Nightmares about hidden, dirty places haunted me my entire life.  Disassociation became an art form.  Projecting ‘perpetrator’ stories onto lovers was a strategy to avoid intimacy.  I shut down my sexuality, in attempts to deny the truth of my body.  I attempted to avoid healing, since it was so terrifying.  My demons were familiar, and if not beloved, at least steadfast…

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This article illustrating how to talk with your children about sexual abuse is very articulate and is filled with many great suggestions. It is an important topic to discuss with children, as no incident should go unreported and every child should feel like they can seek help.

Together We Heal

I was once given some advice from a person much older and wiser than myself: “If a child is old enough to ask the question, they are old enough to get the truth.” There is, however, a way to present truth in a way that neither scares the child nor impedes their ability to openly communicate with the adult about “delicate” subject matter.

The following is a combined list of different suggestions on ways to talk to your children about sexual abuse. The sources for this information are Together We Heal, The Joyful Heart Foundation, The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, FamilyWatchDog.com, The Center for Behavioral Intervention in Beaverton, Oregon, and the Colorado Bureau of Investigation’s: Convicted Sex Offender Web Site, as well as my own personal recommendations based on personal experience.

1)Start Young

Talk openly and often with your children about sexual development, behavior…

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Child Sex Trafficking should NOT be tolerated and should NOT exist in the world! It is horrifying to this that children are being abused and used in such a way. Any form of child sexual abuse is unacceptable, and it is through organisations like yourself which help to make this happen. It was inspiring to read the fantastic things you do to help such a cause.

The Voice for the Sexually Exploited

Veronica’s Voice, Inc. is pleased to announce that our partner, Shared Hope International, will be releasing the results of their comprehensive state by state report from their Protected Innocence Initiative Thursday, December 1st, 2002. The Protected Innocence Initiative is a comprehensive strategy to promote zero tolerance for child sex trafficking. The Initiative provides a blueprint for policy makers to establish the foundational policies needed in each state to create a safe environment for children. As a nation we have made some progress through the TVPRA of 2005. However, many states have made little movement to address this problem in their laws.

Because this issue can seem overwhelming and complex, Veronica’s Voice supports the comprehensive look at the current position of local and state legislation and we believe that legislators will welcome the feedback and support of this focused Initiative. Laws must clearly reflect these children as victims and provide funding…

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This is such a gorgeous letter from a dad to his son. The love this father has for his son is so special, he is blessed to have a father that cares and supports him constantly. Check out the rest of this blog which has wonderful and interesting stories about the life of balancing marriage, parenting and being an athlete.

Tri Fatherhood

Dear Max,

I was awake. I rested there on my side, watching you sleeping fitfully. Shallow breathes. And each drawing gaps between your ribs. Retracting.

We’ve been down this road before. The fear is familiar, but I haven’t learned to compartmentalize it as “just part of it”. That’s what I say out loud when someone asks me how you’re doing.

“How’s Max doing?”

“Oh, he’s fine. The breathing problems are just part of it,” I say. “He’ll grow out of it.”

Preemie boys have respiratory problems. That’s just part of it. And dad’s stay up all night watching their sons breathe.

It’s a seasonal allergy thing. Spring and Fall are your triggers. It happens fast. One minute you’re carrying 10 pounds weights around the house, jumping on your bed, or wrestling the dog. And then you’re coughing, struggling to breathe, lips turning blue.

A couple 0f nights ago you…

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HELP US HELP THE DEFENCELESS

HELP US HELP THE DEFENCELESS

Imagine not feeling safe in your own home. Imagine not feeling safe in the city you live in. Imagine growing up with a knowledge of the world to be so dark. Many children grow up like this – it is the job of people who know better to help protect these delicate souls. WE can unite to make a difference! WE can protect the children of tomorrow. HELP us HELP them – #helpushelpthedefenceless